I am no friend of the word should, and usually it’s a track mark for some species of sex-negative judgment. However, I have no problem with the notion that people should have access to enough sex information to make good decisions about sexual possibilities. And people should be free to have their own boundaries and limits, as well as desires, respected.

But you (or I) should have more sex, less sex, sex with only one kind of partner, sex only when married, sex only to procreate, sex whenever our partner wants it, sex to deserve love, never for money, never with lots of people at a time, never with anyone watching, never if you’re not on the list of body types this culture considers attractive: uh-uh.
Carol Queen (Elements of Sex-Positivity | CarnalNation) (via sexisnottheenemy) (via dwam)